He is like Amar in a lot of ways, does things at his own pace, quiet, thoughtful, calm, kind, positive, happy and grumpy, ambitious but content at the same time. I would have made him like me, over enthusiastic, over scheduled, over attitude, actually over everything! Had we followed the classic parenting routine. We did not!
we encouraged him to explore, that exploratory part sounds fun, but it ain’t a bed of roses, came with lots of years and tears. Infact it was detrimental in some ways, but it all worked well in the long run. Touché!
All we did was, We reiterated the core values/ethics day after day till he accepted. There were many phases before the acceptance phase; retaliation, anger, sadness, blackmail, crying etc.
We never grill him on the achievements. That doesn’t mean I want him to be a failure. All we focus on is whether he is doing things to his full capability. Too small to understand, but I am sure we will get there in a couple of years.
He goes to the cricket academy by choice. Decided to skip the summer vacation because he didn’t want a break in his practice. Trust me it doesn’t feel good when most kids are on holidays and your son is slugging it out. He made that choice and never complained once. That understanding according to me came from within. It came from his understanding of his happiness.
All I want is this dreamy eyed boy to grow up to be a happy, content individual than an over achieved, half happy adult. Again, if he wants to be vice versa, I am ok with that too. Go ahead let your kids explore, understand the world in the way they perceive it and not the way you perceive it ! After all, these lil humans need to make a difference, and they can make that difference only when they are taught to be independent, kind human beings !
P.S. Happy 9th A, and remember Teeth are always in style !
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